If a child grows up in a home where their interests and experiences are being constantly controlled, criticized, mocked or made fun of – that child will grow up forever questioning their skills and abilities. These children will never truly believe in themselves. They may always be afraid to take a chance or try something new and they will always live for the approval of their parents and their future wives, husbands, kids, bosses, etc. This child ultimately grows up feeling as though their value and self-worth are dependent on the opinions and standards of others – not those that they have set for themselves. They build a world that is based on their conditioned need to please other people and they will never have the courage to take chances in this life. They have been reminded time and time again that there exists a painful association between failure and shame, regret and worthlessness.
Imagine if every parent said this to their child every day, “I believe in you. And I love you for who you are and nothing can change that.” What a different world we would live in.